Simple rule for dating my daughter
Contrary to what people will tell you, just as there are tons of people who would never date a sex worker, there are also plenty of people in prestigious occupations with designer educations that would LOVE to marry a porn star.
May not make sense to everyone, but it only has to make sense to the two of them.
He wasn’t exactly my type, but he was certainly good-looking and he was confident.“I know this is weird, but you’re really beautiful and if I don’t ask for your number, I’ll probably never see you again.”His name was Paul and he had blindingly white teeth. I mean, I was fine telling him about the town I grew up in, that I double majored in sociology and literature, and that I went to a prestigious writing program, and that I was working on my first novel. I think getting off is a vital part of human life and one that we shouldn’t have to apologize for. He had a firm body and a pressing desire, but was very respectful in a way that was so sweet it made my stomach turn.
I didn’t mind telling him about the past three years I’d spent in New York working as an art model. I also realize that reality is a long way off, and in the meantime I spend a lot of my time wading through the bog of shit that is other people’s shame and rage as it relates to their sexuality. I justified this to myself with the notion that, hey, who knows if this is even serious and why weigh it down unnecessarily with all of the heavy lifting of institutionalized sexism that demands very specific sanctions against women that are empowered in any way financially or sexually, and, most especially, both? I can already hear everyone who hates porn weighing in with some hot take that’s most likely based on irrational feelings rather than empirical truths. I drove home knowing it was an impossible situation.
He couldn’t really know me to know if things were going to work out without knowing the whole truth, but knowing the whole truth was likely to cut things off at the pass.
So when I found myself single a few years later and decided to enter into the dating world, I realized that my dilemma was twofold; not only did I understand very little about how single people went about being a couple, but when I found one I might want to couple with, I had to figure out how to tell them about my rather unconventional day job.
I know plenty of girls in my industry who have partners who are not in the business and who are quite happy.