My friends are dating
If you really honestly feel like they’re leaving you out, then you say something.Approach them either separately or together, whatever you feel more comfortable doing, and just say that you love both of them and you’re so happy for both of them, but you feel a little left out.I avoid single women because they remind me of me, and I don’t necessarily like myself all of the time when I’m single.Sitting next to a solo friend at a bar is like being in the scariest echo chamber of all time. "If I don’t have a date to this wedding, I’m not going." Misery does love company, you know.It could end up being super convenient, since you already like both their significant others, and truly wonderful if you're happy for both of them.
I entertain my coupled pals with tales of my Tinder dates, freely flirt with bartenders to get faster drinks for the group, and confidently show up to parties solo all the time. But there are moments when it totally sucks: Like this past New Year’s eve, when I was at a party with all the twosomes and the clock struck midnight.
If you guys are truly all friends, you’ll be able to work around this stuff and stay friends.
Right before Christmas of last year, I posted a personal essay called "I May Never Find Love — & That Has To Be Okay" about how I’m slowly, but surely, getting over my fear of dying alone. Hundreds of you took to the comments, pouring your hearts out about your own vulnerabilities and fears.
I also feel like I’m going to lose my two best friends… Sometimes I feel like there is no resolution for this. You have two options here: you can voice your concerns to your friends or you can try to move on and stop hanging out with them.
I’d like to think that the second choice isn’t an option, since I’m assuming you don’t want to lose either of your friends. If they are really your best friends, they’ll hear you out and do what they can to keep your friendship intact.